Lube or lubricant. An essential to sex as desire, in my mind.
It brings such a deliciously enhanced sensation to touch. It aids the insertion of toys. And sometimes, it doesn’t matter how bloody horny you are, you are just not quite wet enough for comfort.
As you may be aware, lubricant comes in two main compositions – water based, or silicone based.
There is an awful lot of information out there about lubrication. What type is best suited to which act. Whether they are latex or sex toy friendly.
So, in a nutshell, what should you be looking for?
First, check that your lube of choice is latex friendly. You don’t want to risk damaging the latex in your condoms and being unprotected from STIs or pregnancy. Oil-based lubricants are not ideal for this very reason.
- Safe with all types of sex toys, whatever they are made of.
- Rejuvenates with water, so saliva and other bodily fluids can help lengthen its effects. Or, just moisten your hands and whoosh, you’re off again!
- Very easy to clean up
- Will be slowly absorbed by the skin. You may need to apply more, but you will also be left feeling wonderfully moisturised!
- This absorption is a reason why water based lubes aren’t ideal for use during anal play – the bowel is designed to reabsorb water, meaning you may become dry and uncomfortable very quickly.
- May be flavoured
- May dry with a sticky feel, especially if they contain glycerine.
- Equally, some people show a reaction to glycerine, and it may irritate sensitive areas¹. So you might want to check this out if you are left feeling a little uncomfortable.
- Generally cheaper than silicone based lubes. This doesn’t mean they are the lesser cousin, it’s just that silicone lube contain more expensive ingredients.
- Can come in flavoured lubricant varieties for use during oral sex
- Suitable for toys made of plastic, wood, glass, stone…but NOT SILICONE
- It is currently not advisable to use silicone lube with silicone toys, based on silicone’s ‘self-healing’ properties. Essentially, silicone has the ability to re-bond, especially under higher temperatures². As a result, the silicone in your lube may try to bond with the silicone in your toy. Not ideal, and potentially damaging.
- Waterproof. So if you like to play in the shower, silicone lube is the way to go. Just be careful to watch your footing, as they will make ALL surfaces slick. They wash off with soap and water when you’re done.
- This benefit also means they are ideal for anal sex (see above for why water-based lubes are not)
- They last longer, helped again by the fact that they are waterproof. They won’t become diluted by bodily fluids. So a little will go a long way.
- This long lasting effect, in our eyes, balances out the fact that they are a little more expensive than water based lubricants. You use less overall.
- Silicone is an inert substance, and therefore unlikely to cause reactions. Though you should always test out new products for any allergic reactions before you use them.
- Easy to wash off the skin, but will stain fabrics.
There is also Oil-Based lubricant, which can be used with everything EXCEPT LATEX. So if you are using condoms as a form of contraception, for example, oil-based lubricants are not for you.
Whichever lube you choose, take a look at the consistency. Thicker lubricant is ideal for anal play, as anal tissue is a lot more delicate than vaginal, and it can help offer more protection against tearing.