Ask a Sexpert – I Would Really Like to Take Part in a Gang Bang

Posted on 08/05/2017

I am 37 but want a large number of men to have sex with me vaginally and anally…repeatedly for hours…or as long as I can enjoy it. I am confident I could arrange for about 9 men to ‘do’ me but ideally I would prefer 15 to 20. Obviously cleanliness and protection would need to apply. I am considering advertising on the Internet to get more men and I can easily get a motel room. This has been a desire of mine for years and I feel I have to do it. Having a large number of men to repeatedly ‘fuck’ me would be heaven for me. Can you offer any advice please as to how many men or what length of time I could do this for? Thank you.

 

Gang bang sex is a theme that commonly features in the top five or ten most popular sexual fantasies when researchers have surveyed women. The idea of being the sole focus of desire for a large, anonymous group of men can make some women feel irresistibly sexy and while this fantasy involves submitting to hours of penetration, there may be a sense of power and control in knowing you’re having an electric sexual effect on so many hot-blooded males. Being the object of voyeurism may also be your turn-on and I wonder whether that’s why the number of men joining in the fun is so arousing for you.

 

It sounds like you’ve spent lots of time erotically charging this fantasy and you’ve now reached a point where you feel compelled to act it out. However I’d offer a few words of caution here, because when fantasy becomes reality there is a chance that things won’t be exactly as you’ve dreamed – you may or may not enjoy this as much as you’ve anticipated.

 I dream of a gang bang

 

Have you thought about how you would halt proceedings part way through if things didn’t go to plan?  It might be important to consider how consent works in a group sex situation like this and whether your vulnerability within a large group of men could become an issue. I’m not certain how well you could assert your boundaries in a motel room since there is a risk you may feel overwhelmed.

 

What would the impact be if alcohol or drugs were involved? Would there be someone present to focus on your well-being and how would they manage any problems? There is an unpredictable element about all this, especially if you’re recruiting strangers via the internet to participate in your game.

 

The good news is that there are ways you can enjoy gang bang sex with the knowledge that your boundaries and well-being are safeguarded. The best way forward is to explore the swinging lifestyle. At swingers’ clubs and sex parties you’ll find the freedom of opportunity you desire but there is also established etiquette, clarity with negotiation, commitment to safer sex, the use of safe words and mindfulness about consent. With all that in place you can really let go.

 

When you connect with others who embrace the lifestyle you may regularly encounter like-minded, role-play savvy couples and singles over time in whom you can place trust, opening up the possibility of meeting in a motel room in the future. This means you could eventually host your fantasy sex party in a way that pushes the boundaries and delivers the buzz but minimises risk. That could really be something to get your juices flowing.

 

The level of stamina you’ll have for any kind of sex will depend upon many different factors. You may start to feel over stimulated or enter a deep emotional state during gang bang style penetration, and it’s important you know this. Sex can be unpredictable – what you enjoy tonight may be different from what gets you off tomorrow – so it’s impossible to say how many men you can manage or for how long. What’s important is that you remain in control and this means calling time when you’ve had enough.

 

Ultimately, how you express yourself sexually is your choice and I’m 110% supportive of you getting the kicks you desire. But let’s make this a safe, positive experience. That way, you’ll find the fulfilment you’re seeking and things really can go off with a bang.

 

If this post has whet your appetite for more information, you’d like some tips on tantalising techniques or have a specific question about sex, love or relationships, drop me a line via our Ask a Sexpert service!

 

Have fun!

 

Rhian XOXO

 

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